Een vrouw legt hieronder uit hoe ze Domestic Discipline ziet.

I am asked this from time to time, and I just want to go on the record to say yes I believe it is perfectly within the husband’s rights to spank his wife. And the wife should remain still and obedient for any spanking her husband gives her.

I am not saying it is okay for a man to beat a woman, on the contrary a woman should not ever let herself be beaten out of anger or hatred.  A man should never hit a woman in the face with a closed or open hand, for that matter should never strike her in any way other than on her bottom or backs of legs.  

My personal belief the wife should only be spanked or whipped in the traditional method.  Spankings are given with the open hand or an implement suited for this job such as a wooden paddle, wooden spoon, hairbrush, or possibly a rubber soul slipper.  Whippings should be administered with tools such as a leather strap/belt, switch, rattan cane or any suitable flexible rod, however he must show caution when using such implements.  

The point of any physical punishment is to correct a certain behavior or attitude not just to beat her.  The wife should certainly expect to have redness, welts, bruises and other marks on her bottom but it should never break the skin, and if it does then it should stop immediately.

Other areas a husband has the right to punish his wife is striking the palms of her hands are soles of her feet with an appropriate implement.  But this should only be done to correct attempts at stopping spankings, such as putting her hands in the way or kicking her feet in the path.  Putting her hand on her bottom during a spanking is not only an act of defiance but can be quite dangerous if her husband does not react in time possibly striking her fingers with an implement.

The wife should always be spanked on her bare bottom never over clothing or panties.  It is also within her husband’s rights to have her completely undress for punishment.  It’s my personal belief that the wife should always be completely naked to receive her spanking. I also feel she should undress herself and stand naked before him as a sign of obedience and acceptance.  However this should never be done in front of anyone but her husband.  If the husband chooses to have witnesses only the portion of her bottom that is to be spanked should be visible.  The husband must protect his wife’s modesty.

Husband and wives will argue and always have difference of opinions.  This is to be expected husband should not be quick to spank his wife over an argument on what is the best yogurt or where they should go for dinner.  Spanking should only be given when a defiant attitude, deliberate disobedience, or putting herself into danger is apparent.  And if a situation arises were punishment has been earned than the husband should not shy away from a ministering a painful spanking for correction.  

As the wife you should not expect to be spanked for silly things like not calling him Sir or having dinner ready at certain time.  Your relationship should be one of loving and understanding, however if your husband decides to spank you for whatever reason, you should immediately stop talking and showed no signs of defiance.  I can tell you girls from experience that many times my mentor chose not to spank me because I stopped talking and stood patiently in front of him waiting for his instructions.  He saw this as an obedient action and saw no further reason to a minister punishment.  

However if you are going to be spanked, except this fact and do whatever you can to ensure the spanking is effective and as it should be painful.  Once you are told to get ready stop whatever you’re doing, undress herself putting your clothing away neatly and out of sight.  Present yourself to him in the standard fashion or ritual which is commonly used in your relationship.  Without argument or discussion allow yourself to be placed into the position he prefers, making sure your bottom is in the proper position and can be easily smacked.  

Do not tense up trying to keep your bottom as relaxed as possible to ensure that each swat will give the maximum amount of stinging.  Tensing your bottom may reduce the stinging you feel at the time, but can clause deeper tissue bruising and longer discomfort.  Whimpers, yelps, and crying is expected and you should not hold back these emotions.  However never talk or beg during the spanking.  The time for that had passed once your husband ordered you to prepare yourself.  

If you’re to be whipped, again prepare yourself in the standard rituals for your relationship. Bend over an object, or touch your toes accordingly making sure your feet are apart so you can comfortably bend forward and arch your back so your bottom will be at the highest point.  Find a comfortable place for your hands to hold onto.  Such as the chair legs, grasping your ankles, or fingers under your toes and tell yourself that your hands are fastened to that location and cannot possibly move.  If you can convince yourself of this you have a greater chance of not trying to interrupt your correction.  This may have gotten a little longer than I intended, but to recap – yes I believe the husband have the right to spank his wife.

(Bron foto: realspankings)

Eerder gepubliceerd op het Daphne Fotoblog op 3 januari 2015.